Friday, May 24, 2013
Schoepflin is pretty much a circus when it comes to doing work outside. He's not totally terrible at mowing the lawn, but it's evident that he dislikes almost every minute of it. He's clumsy and ineffective at weed-wacking. The guy doesn't even own a snowblower. He lives in Buffalo, for Christ's sake. How does this guy not have a snowblower? He half-heartedly brushes snow off his car in the winter months, and clears about 70% of the snow from his wife's car. What a prince. In the spring he doesn't plant flowers. He once considered planting vegetables, but never followed through. Overall, he demonstrates an appalling lack of interest in the outdoor area of his home. Grade: D
Schoepflin appears terrified of his grill. He can't turn on a gas grill on a consistent basis. He doesn't ruin hot dogs, but overcooks hamburgers, wrecks steaks, and produces uninspiring chicken. At least he's smart enough to avoid trying to grill kabobs. He complains about how hot it is to stand over a grill. When asked if he wanted a new grill for Father's Day, he was so dumbfounded by the question that he couldn't muster a response. Let me be blunt: when it comes to grilling, he's an embarrassment. Grade: F
This guy is right at home at grocery stores. He likes grocery stores. He glides through the aisles with a smile, hums to whatever song is playing on the store soundtrack (he has a noticeable pep in his step when Stevie Wonder is playing), chats with workers, small talks with fellow customers, and patiently waits in line. He wisely races through the middle aisles of the store in order to limit his purchase of processed foods. He knows how to pick produce, knows a good meat bargain when he sees it, and is excellent at reading labels. I swear I've seen him counting the number of ingredients when he grabs canned goods or an item from the frozen foods section. This guy is a triple threat: he can meal plan, stay within the budget, and is a health-conscious shopper. Grade: A
OMG, have you seen Schoepflin change a diaper? It's a thing of beauty. This guy should enter a diaper-changing contest. Methodical yet efficient. Smooth understates the matter. Graceful gets close to it. This fella knows what's he doing with diapers. My only criticism is that he needs 6-8 wipes for a poopy diaper. This guy is killing the environment and that fact must be taken into account in terms of a grade. Ok, so he's great at changing diapers on his 2-year-old, but what about the rest of it? Well, he sings to him, tickles him, totes him around when needed, and loves him up. This guy is pretty steady with the kids. I like what he has to offer his 5-year-old: he makes his lunches for school, teaches him to play baseball, encourages reading, and is very affectionate with him. He does get frustrated easily and has trouble living in the moment, but overall I like what I see. It does seem like he'd often rather be blogging or tweeting, but nobody's perfect. He puts his kids in front of the TV too much. To be fair, he sometimes uses TV to buy time to empty the dishwasher, do laundry, or cook dinner. Also, in an interview with his wife, she noted that he did his fair share of overnight feedings when the kids were babies. He also created original songs to sing to the boys at bedtime. Grade: B+
FIXING THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE
He can change a light bulb. What can I say, I'm trying to be nice. I don't want to sound like a hater, but this guy is useless around the house. If something needs fixing, you better look elsewhere. He's is powerless with power tools. To him, everything looks like a screw, only he can't use a screw gun. I'd say he has two left hands, but that's an insult to people with two left hands. I'd say he tries, but that's only slightly true. I guess I'd say fixing things doesn't come naturally to him, and he clearly shows a lack of interest in improving his skills. It's like, dare I say, fixing things isn't important to him. This isn't to say he doesn't appreciate people who are good at fixing things. In fact, he's impressed by people who are handy. He admires people who can get jobs done. It's just not a personal ambition or something he values for himself. It appears as though he'd prefer to spend time doing things that are important to him, like reading and writing. Because he can do a little bit of painting without falling off a ladder, he avoids an F. Grade: D
In the big picture of parenting, I judge him as above average. He gives his kids room to grow but is happy to nurture and comfort them. He works hard to be very involved in all phases of his kids' lives. He volunteers as an assistant coach for his 5-year-old's t-ball team. He puts a lot of emphasis on making his kids laugh, having fun with them, playing with them, meeting their immediate needs, and coordinates everything with his wife. This is a report card of him, but for context it must be said that all major decisions are shared with his wife. They are a team. They are good at many of the same things, and bad at many of the same things. As I write this summary, it occurs to me that "above average" is a strange way to rate a person as a father or man. Who gets to decide what constitutes a good parent or good person? Who sets the baseline? What is below average and what would it look like? What's with all the rhetorical questions? Maybe it's time to pull back on our assumptions about concepts like "father" and "man." Truth be told, I don't think there is one set of things a man should do and a different set of things that a woman should do. Honestly, I don't see it that way. I guess I want to say that people do the best they can in this life. We should pay more attention to the things people do well. The best gift we can give people is to cast aside our stereotypical expectations.
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Tweets About Various Topics (Mother's Day Shooting in New Orleans; Jason Richwine; Abercrombie & Fitch)
18 ppl injured in Mother's Day shooting in New Orleans. Little converge. Is this cause media expect this? Ppl from these communities DON'T!Rashawn nailed it with that tweet. Why didn't the national media converge on New Orleans to heavily cover this violent tragedy? David Leonard blogs about this very topic (link included in his tweet):
— Rashawn Ray (@SociologistRay) May 13, 2013
Not Worthy of National Attention: The NOLA Mother’s Day Mass Shootings by David J. Leonard | NewBlackMan (in Exile) newblackman.blogspot.com/2013/05/not-wo…Do you know who Jason Richwine is? If not, read Diego von Vacano's op-ed. For more on Richwine, go to Hector Cordero-Guzman's Twitter (@HCorderoGuzman) and scroll through his tweets from the past eight days or so.
— David Leonard (@drdavidjleonard) May 16, 2013
@latinorebels my oped on #Richwine on #monkeycageBlogthemonkeycage.org/2013/05/13/iq-…DiegoOnto a different topic. There's plenty of reasons to dislike Abercrombie and Fitch. The list is growing. Click on link in the following tweet to see what I mean.
— Diego von Vacano (@diegovonvacano) May 13, 2013
Exploiting homeless ppl as a medium to re-brand Abercrombie clothes as uncool is wrong. ow.ly/l58NNMoving on...if you like social theory, check out the Stick Figures in Social Theory Tumblr. Something to keep an eye on...
— Pat Louie (@plouie01) May 16, 2013
guys: this exists now. stickfiguresocialtheory.tumblr.com. #stickfigures #socialtheoryThere's also a new sociological blog by Tanya Golash-Boza to follow...
— Matt Rafalow (@mrafalow) May 15, 2013
raceandracisms.blogspot.com - New blog and forthcoming book by @tanyagolashboza(#sociology of #race and #racism)Great photographs in the next one...
— EricAnthonyGrollman (@grollman) May 15, 2013
34 Grandmothers Around The World And What They Cook bit.ly/13VR1RO <- compare and contrast. #sociologyLet's finish with a few observations. I strongly agree with this one...
— SocProf (@SocProf) May 13, 2013
You couldn't pay me to do grad school over again.Overall, I had a positive experience in graduate school. I had an excellent academic experience. My professors treated me well. I made some good friends. But when I hear "graduate school" I think of insomnia and a pullout couch. I spent much of graduate school sleep-deprived and money-deprived. I lived in a tiny studio apartment and had a tiny checking account. I accumulated super-sized student loan debt. I grew tired of writing papers. All things considered, I really do recall graduate school in mostly positive ways. But I agree with Crystal: you couldn't pay me to do it over again. And we finish with a statement about memes:
— Crystal Fleming (@alwaystheself) May 15, 2013
A glut of memes...Indeed! Thanks for reading.
— Sound Survivalist (@soundsurvivlist) May 16, 2013
Monday, May 13, 2013
W. Kamau Bell Hits the Street to Ask: What’d You Like to Say to a White Person? [VIDEO]soa.li/6bfXj6l— Johnny E. Williams (@jwillia2) May 10, 2013
Avenues, a for-profit NYC K-8 where 4-yr-olds study Klee & parents demand seaweed on menu. Not an Onion story.nyti.ms/12Y8A4d— Dave Purcell (@davepurcell) May 5, 2013
Melissa Harris-Perry teaches us how to be a good ally bit.ly/XXRhv9— SocWomen (@socwomen) April 4, 2013
And we finish with an excellent sociological observation...
Words matter and there is a difference between tolerance and acceptance. fb.me/1yqxKQ0gy— Stephanie MedleyRath (@learnsociology) March 7, 2013
The class based bias that rests just below the surface of most respectable conversation is astounding.— Matt Loveland (@mtloveland) May 1, 2013